Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged By Virtual Infidelity
by Mark Chamberlain, Geoff Steurer
How does pornography harm a marriage?
"It may be cybersex, but it can feel like real infidelity to your partner," says authors Mark Chamberlain and Geoff Steurer. "There's nothing virtual about the damage pornography does to a relationship."
The good news is that the marriage itself can be a couple's most powerful tool in healing in a pornography habit. This helpful, informative, and insightful book will help couples learn how to harness that strength to make their marriages more fulfilling than they ever imagined possible.
Love You, Hate the Porn helps couples draw together when pornography is threatening to tear them apart.
•Shows couples how to identify and address vulnerabilities in their relationship.
•Offers healing advice for spouses.
•Provides help for the struggling partner to avoid relapse.
•Focuses on how to make the marriage relationship strong than it was before.
What's the Big Deal About Pornography?: A Guide for the Internet Generation
Dr. Manning speaks directly to the young people she calls the "internet generation." She discusses such topics as:
"What is pornography?"
"How does pornography affect people?"
"Can pornography teach me things about sexuality that I need to know in the future?"
"What do I do if I can't stop looking at pornography?"
"What do I do if someone I know can't stop looking at pornography?"
"11 suggestions teens should talk to their parents about."
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by Mark Chamberlain, PhD, Dan Gray, LCSW, and Rory C. Reid, MSW
This publication combines the experiences of numerous authors who make separate contributions on issues related to pornography. Therapists offer their advice along side Internet experts, attorney's discussing legal issues and individuals recovering from pornography problems tell their story.
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Confronting Your Spouse's Pornography Problem
by Rory C. Reid, MSW and Dan Gray, LCSW
An increasing number of people are turning to the Internet for pornography and related activities such as illicit chat rooms, cybersex, solicitation of prostitutes, or worse, predatory behavior towards minors. In most cases, secrecy enables and perpetuates these problems. These behaviors have devastating effects on marriages.
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The Porn Trap: Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography
A groundbreaking, comprehensive and compassionate resource. The Porn Trap is the first book to address the full range of pornography-related problems, which have skyrocketed since the explosion of the Internet in recent years. Based on interviews and dramatic true stories, this book provides help for everyone from the recreational “dabbler” to the compulsive addict, as well as partners of porn addicts. Wendy and Larry Maltz present readers with a wide range of simple but effective healing strategies and techniques.
"..The defining resource for helping people with porn problems." -- Claudia Black, PhD
"Extremely helpful...I highly recommend it." --Harville Hendrix, PhD
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Pornified: How Pornography Is Damaging Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families
by Pamela Paul
Paul details how the ubiquity of pornography impacts our personal lives. She discusses studies on the subject--in one, 77 percent of respondents said they had looked at pornography at least once in a 30-day period--and shares interviews with many who watch it regularly.
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The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse
by Wendy Maltz
The Sexual Healing Journey helps survivors to:
• identify the sexual effects of abuse
• create a positive meaning for sex
• develop a healthy sexual self-concept
• gain control over upsetting automatic reactions to touch and sex
• stop negative sexual behaviors
• improve intimacy with a partner
• learn a new approach to touch and sex
• resolve sexual functioning concerns
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Recommended Reading for Spouses
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner has been Unfaithful (1994), Janis Abrams Spring. Harper Collins Publishers.
NOT "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity (2004), Shirley Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli.
Affairs: A Guide to Working Through the Repercussions of Infidelity (1999), Emily M. Brown.
Discussing Pornography Problems with a Spouse: Confronting and Disclosing Secret Behaviors (2002 & 2005), Rory C. Reid & Dan Gray. Mental Health Publications, Salt Lake City, UT.
How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To (2004), Janis Abrams Spring. Harper Collins Publishing, New York, NY.
Infidelity on the Internet: Virtual Relationships and Real Betrayal (2001), Marlene M. Maheu & Rona B. Subotnik. Sourcebooks Inc., Naperville, Illinois.
Living with Your Husband’s Secret Wars (1999), Marsha Means. Fleming H. Revell, Grand Rapids, MI.
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself. Melody Beattie, Hazelden.
The Dance of Intimacy. Harriet G. Lerner. Harper & Row, New York, NY.
The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships, Harriet G. Lerner. Harper & Row, New York, NY.
The Dance of Deception: A Guide to Authenticity and Truth-Telling in Women's Relationships, Harriet G. Lerner. Harper & Row, New York, NY.
Recommended Reading for Parents
Pornified:How Pornography is Transforming Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families. Pamela Paul.
Protecting Your Child in an X-Rated World: What You Need to Know to Make a Difference. Frank York & Jan LaRue.
Home Invasion: Protecting Your Family in a Culture that's Gone Stark Raving Mad. Rebecca Hagelin.
How and When to Tell Your Kids About Sex: A Lifelong Approach to Shaping Your Child's Sexual Character. Brenna & Stan Jones.
Kids Ask About Sex: Honest Answers for Every Age. Edited by Melissa R. Cox & the Medical Institute for Sexual Health.
Ten Talks Parents Must Have with Their Children about Sex and Character. Pepper Schwartz & Dominic Cappello.
Parenting with Love & Logic. Foster W. Cline & Jim Fay.
Parenting Teens with Love & Logic. Foster W. Cline & Jim Fay.
Recommended Reading for Couples
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, Marshall B. Rosenberg.
Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World that Pulls Us Apart, William J. Doherty, Guilford Press.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. John M. Gottman. Three Rivers Press.
Purity and Passion: Spiritual Truths about Intimacy That Will Strengthen Your Marriage. Wendy L. Watson, Deseret Book.
Rock-Solid Relationships: Strengthening Personal Relationships With Wisdom from the Scriptures, Wendy L. Watson, Deseret Book.
Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships with Recovery, Romance & Reality (1999), Patrick Carnes, Debra Laaser & Mark Laaser.
Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual & Relationship Recovery (2005), Patrick Carnes.
Divorce Busting: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again. Michele
The Peacegiver: How Christ Offers to Heal our Hearts and Homes, James L. Ferrell, Deseret Book.